What do you do when you don't know what to do?

 photo by Apex Photography

I just read this on a post of Gold Star Families facebook page.  James gave me permission to use his words to let all of us know what really matters when someone is hurting because of the death of a loved one.  I think James summed it up beautifully. 

"Those of us who suffer grief will more often than not remember the quiet and unassuming person who comes to visit them. The person who quietly sits by us on the couch and lets us weep and talk about our lost loved one without interruption or thinking they have to add anything. The person who handed us a kleenex without a word. The who was there when they needed them, who just simply listened — who didn’t keep glancing at a watch — who simply hugged, touched, cried, and prayed. It is not the person who liked to say for all to hear "What can we do for you?" or "Let me know what I can do" it was the person who saw a need and simply did it without question or without fanfare. Like when I went to get some coffee and my sister's in Christ were at the sink washing our dishes! I did not even know they were there! Or our clothes were magically washed and folded ready to pack! I still do not know who mowed my yard or filled the car's gas tank up! I may not know who did it but I will forever remember the act!

So in summation... the people I remember most in my grief was the someone who was available and came to me..."  James Dunigan  proud father of a fallen soldier